Code of Conduct

The big idea

OffMenu is a non-play platform built for the ENM, poly, kink, queer, trans, and broader alt-lifestyle communities. Events are for socializing, education, and community-building — munches, mixers, potlucks, workshops, and discussion groups. No play, no sex, no recruitment for play. Events that violate this get removed and organizers warned or banned.

Identity and privacy

Treat scene names and real-name privacy as sacred. Do not out anyone — on or off the platform. The fact that someone attends an OffMenu event is not yours to share without their consent.

No solicitation

We don’t have DMs, but that’s not a loophole. No recruiting for play, no pitching paid services, no MLM, no business fundraising disguised as networking. If you’re unsure whether something qualifies, ask.

Show up

Punctuality and reliability matter. Don’t ghost an RSVP without notice. Hosts plan around the numbers you give them.

Hosts are not your matchmakers

Hosts run events. They’re not your therapist, concierge, or matchmaker. Respect their boundaries the same way they respect yours.

Bigotry

Harassment, racism, transphobia, ableism, queerphobia, and similar will get you banned. This is non-negotiable.

Tell us when something’s wrong

If you see something, report it. Every event, every user, and every comment has a Report button. We can’t fix what we don’t know about.

Hosts agree to

• You are responsible for your event’s safety and conduct.
• Follow this Code of Conduct, and enforce it at your event.
• Do not host play events under any disguise.
• OffMenu can suspend, remove, or relabel events at our discretion.